Here are some key takeaways that I learnt from the book, “The Courage to be Disliked” by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga.
- Seperate tasks: you are responsible for being yourself and doing what you need to do in life. You are not responsible for how others respond to you or what they think of your actions.
- To be disliked is a good sign because it means you are living your life freely. To be liked by everyone means that you are bending yourself for others to the point that you are no longer yourself. Therefore to be liked by everyone is a bad sign because you live in a restricted manner and lack freedom.
- To be so conscious of what other people think of you is actually sign of being too self absorbed. Don’t be so self consumed with what people think of you and instead focus on others in terms of how you can help or benefit them, regardless of whether they respond with liking or disliking you.
- Treat people horizontally not vertically. See others as comrades and equals. Rather then above or below you. This eliminates feelings of inferiority/superiority.
You can read my review of the book here.
– your sis Nis